Gabby Kanyo

Not your neurotypical therapist

Senior psychological therapist, yoga and mindfulness teacher, bringing clinical depth and lived experience to neurodivergent adults in Fareham and beyond.

I offer trauma-informed, tailored treatment for individuals and couples, using:

CBT ACT DBT Gottman Couples Therapy

Whether it's perfectionism, anxiety, binge eating, burnout, or the exhausting gap between what you're capable of and how life actually feels. I'll help you make sense of those patterns, not just manage the symptoms.

Relationships were always in the room. Even in one-to-one work, they kept walking in. The partner, the pattern, the same argument wearing a different coat. So I followed them. I trained with the Gottman Institute to bring my existing skills to the place where so much of the struggle actually lives: between two people trying to stay close.

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Fareham, Hampshire & Online

BABCP Accredited Cognitive Behavioural Therapist

Solid Architecture, Not Platitudes

Neurocomplexity is not for the faint-hearted. It requires precision and careful consideration when it comes to treatment. I won't offer you a checklist or generic coping tools.

My clients often arrive with some combination of:

Difficulty regulating emotions
Anxiety, low self-confidence, relationship issues
Low mood, self-doubt and a sense that something is fundamentally wrong with them

Once we map out how your system works, it all becomes clear. How none of these are standalone problems: they are all connected.

They come with costs you've been absorbing for years, and my job is to help you stop paying them.

Same room, two people.

Nobody is in trouble.

Couples Therapy

If you're neurodivergent, you may already know the feeling of being a walking paradox, and that conventional relationship advice wasn't built for you. “Just communicate better” doesn't cut it when one or both of you has ADHD, is Autistic, or both. You don't need to try harder at a system that was never designed for your wiring. You need a different architecture.

What I've found works isn't more effort. It's better design. Systems that are safe. Where nobody's in trouble. Where needs can be named without shame, and compromise doesn't cost you yourself.

Nothing in you is broken if you keep landing in the same fight. Recurring conflict isn't a character flaw. It's a sign the foundation needs tending. The work is building safety and trust: within yourself, and with the person across from you.

How it works

Step 1

Everyone starts with an assessment.

No exceptions. Before we change anything, we map what's actually happening between you: the patterns, the strengths, the places it gets stuck. This is your shared starting point.

Step 2

You choose the next road.

Based on what the assessment shows, I'll recommend where to go from here. There's rarely one right path. You pick the destination that fits you both, and we build from there.

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What Change Looks Like

Clients described their learning after completing therapy with me:

I can set clear boundaries and I know my worth

I am able to stay within my tolerance window for longer, I can relax and enjoy moments of calm

I recognise overwhelm now and know what to do to minimise impact

My family commented on how much better I deal with stressful situations

I still doubt myself at times, but that's okay. It doesn't stop me from doing difficult things

Stories Fascinate Me

They don't always start where you'd expect.

When I meet a new client I might get snippets of their chapters 5, 7, 6 or 10. Or all of those in one session. There's often a tangled mess that is presented for untangling.

Now, here's a ball of tangled yarn. Different colours, lengths, all over the place. I enjoy the process of untangling, but I'll invite you to try it with me.

We untangle. We free knots. We process, roll into a ball. Knitted into a harmonious piece, acknowledging all the colours that make you, you.

It's transformational and affirming on a foundational level.

Gabby doing aerial yoga, upside down and smiling, the playful side of therapy

In Their Own Words

Handwritten notes from clients, because real words carry real weight

Handwritten thank you note from a client

"Your advice, support, understanding and humour..."

"What you do is life changing and I can't thank you enough!"

"Your kindness, knowledge and patience have been invaluable."